netfilter: ctnetlink: make event listener tracking global

pernet tracking doesn't work correctly because other netns might have
set NETLINK_LISTEN_ALL_NSID on its event socket.

In this case its expected that events originating in other net
namespaces are also received.

Making pernet-tracking work while also honoring NETLINK_LISTEN_ALL_NSID
requires much more intrusive changes both in netlink and nfnetlink,
f.e. adding a 'setsockopt' callback that lets nfnetlink know that the
event socket entered (or left) ALL_NSID mode.

Move to global tracking instead: if there is an event socket anywhere
on the system, all net namespaces which have conntrack enabled and
use autobind mode will allocate the ecache extension.

netlink_has_listeners() returns false only if the given group has no
subscribers in any net namespace, the 'net' argument passed to
nfnetlink_has_listeners is only used to derive the protocol (nfnetlink),
it has no other effect.

For proper NETLINK_LISTEN_ALL_NSID-aware pernet tracking of event
lis...