tcp/dccp: fix ireq->opt races

syzkaller found another bug in DCCP/TCP stacks [1]

For the reasons explained in commit ce105008 ("tcp/dccp: fix
ireq->pktopts race"), we need to make sure we do not access
ireq->opt unless we own the request sock.

Note the opt field is renamed to ireq_opt to ease grep games.

[1]
BUG: KASAN: use-after-free in ip_queue_xmit+0x1687/0x18e0 net/ipv4/ip_output.c:474
Read of size 1 at addr ffff8801c951039c by task syz-executor5/3295

CPU: 1 PID: 3295 Comm: syz-executor5 Not tainted 4.14.0-rc4+ #80
Hardware name: Google Google Compute Engine/Google Compute Engine, BIOS Google 01/01/2011
Call Trace:
 __dump_stack lib/dump_stack.c:16 [inline]
 dump_stack+0x194/0x257 lib/dump_stack.c:52
 print_address_description+0x73/0x250 mm/kasan/report.c:252
 kasan_report_error mm/kasan/report.c:351 [inline]
 kasan_report+0x25b/0x340 mm/kasan/report.c:409
 __asan_report_load1_noabort+0x14/0x20 mm/kasan/report.c:427
 ip_queue_xmit+0x1687/0x18e0 net/ipv4/ip_output.c:474
 tcp_transmit_skb+0x1ab7...