block: reimplement FLUSH/FUA to support merge

The current FLUSH/FUA support has evolved from the implementation
which had to perform queue draining.  As such, sequencing is done
queue-wide one flush request after another.  However, with the
draining requirement gone, there's no reason to keep the queue-wide
sequential approach.

This patch reimplements FLUSH/FUA support such that each FLUSH/FUA
request is sequenced individually.  The actual FLUSH execution is
double buffered and whenever a request wants to execute one for either
PRE or POSTFLUSH, it queues on the pending queue.  Once certain
conditions are met, a flush request is issued and on its completion
all pending requests proceed to the next sequence.

This allows arbitrary merging of different type of flushes.  How they
are merged can be primarily controlled and tuned by adjusting the
above said 'conditions' used to determine when to issue the next
flush.

This is inspired by Darrick's patches to merge multiple zero-data
flushes which helps worklo...