bcachefs: Make backpointer fsck wb flush check more rigorous

backpointers fsck now always runs in rw mode - the btree is being
modified while it runs, by e.g. copygc, rebalance, the discard worker,
the invalidate worker.

We could find a missing backpointer, flush the btree write buffer, and
then on the next iteration find a new key at the exact same position -
which will most likely need another write buffer flush.

Hence, we have to check for an exact match on last_flushed, not just the
pos.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>