vhost, vhost_net: add helper to check if vq has work

In the next patches each vq might have different workers so one could
have work but others do not. For net, we only want to check specific vqs,
so this adds a helper to check if a vq has work pending and converts
vhost-net to use it.

Signed-off-by: Mike Christie <michael.christie@oracle.com>
Acked-by: Jason Wang <jasowang@redhat.com>
Message-Id: <20230626232307.97930-5-michael.christie@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>