netfilter: conntrack: remove central spinlock nf_conntrack_lock

nf_conntrack_lock is a monolithic lock and suffers from huge contention
on current generation servers (8 or more core/threads).

Perf locking congestion is clear on base kernel:

-  72.56%  ksoftirqd/6  [kernel.kallsyms]    [k] _raw_spin_lock_bh
   - _raw_spin_lock_bh
      + 25.33% init_conntrack
      + 24.86% nf_ct_delete_from_lists
      + 24.62% __nf_conntrack_confirm
      + 24.38% destroy_conntrack
      + 0.70% tcp_packet
+   2.21%  ksoftirqd/6  [kernel.kallsyms]    [k] fib_table_lookup
+   1.15%  ksoftirqd/6  [kernel.kallsyms]    [k] __slab_free
+   0.77%  ksoftirqd/6  [kernel.kallsyms]    [k] inet_getpeer
+   0.70%  ksoftirqd/6  [nf_conntrack]       [k] nf_ct_delete
+   0.55%  ksoftirqd/6  [ip_tables]          [k] ipt_do_table

This patch change conntrack locking and provides a huge performance
improvement.  SYN-flood attack tested on a 24-core E5-2695v2(ES) with
10Gbit/s ixgbe (with tool trafgen):

 Base kernel:   810.405 new connt...