erofs: use struct lockref to replace handcrafted approach

Let's avoid the current handcrafted lockref although `struct lockref`
inclusion usually increases extra 4 bytes with an explicit spinlock if
CONFIG_DEBUG_SPINLOCK is off.

Apart from the size difference, note that the meaning of refcount is
also changed to active users. IOWs, it doesn't take an extra refcount
for XArray tree insertion.

I don't observe any significant performance difference at least on
our cloud compute server but the new one indeed simplifies the
overall codebase a bit.

Signed-off-by: Gao Xiang <hsiangkao@linux.alibaba.com>
Reviewed-by: Yue Hu <huyue2@coolpad.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230529123727.79943-1-hsiangkao@linux.alibaba.com