bcachefs: bch2_trigger_alloc() handles state changes better

bch2_trigger_alloc() kicks off certain tasks on bucket state changes;
e.g. triggering the bucket discard worker and the invalidate worker.

We've observed the discard worker running too often - most runs it
doesn't do any work, according to the tracepoint - so clearly, we're
kicking it off too often.

This adds an explicit statechange() macro to make these checks more
precise.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>