virtio_pci: move structure to a header

These are guest/host interfaces, so they belong in the header where e.g.
qemu will know to find them.

Note: we added a new structure as opposed to extending existing one
because someone might be relying on the size of the existing structure
staying unchanged.  Add a warning to avoid using sizeof.

Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Xuan Zhuo <xuanzhuo@linux.alibaba.com>