bpf: sockmap, remove STRPARSER map_flags and add multi-map support

The addition of map_flags BPF_SOCKMAP_STRPARSER flags was to handle a
specific use case where we want to have BPF parse program disabled on
an entry in a sockmap.

However, Alexei found the API a bit cumbersome and I agreed. Lets
remove the STRPARSER flag and support the use case by allowing socks
to be in multiple maps. This allows users to create two maps one with
programs attached and one without. When socks are added to maps they
now inherit any programs attached to the map. This is a nice
generalization and IMO improves the API.

The API rules are less ambiguous and do not need a flag:

  - When a sock is added to a sockmap we have two cases,

     i. The sock map does not have any attached programs so
        we can add sock to map without inheriting bpf programs.
        The sock may exist in 0 or more other maps.

    ii. The sock map has an attached BPF program. To avoid duplicate
        bpf programs we only add the sock entry if...