netfilter: ipset: fix race condition between swap/destroy and kernel side add/del/test

Linkui Xiao reported that there's a race condition when ipset swap and destroy is
called, which can lead to crash in add/del/test element operations. Swap then
destroy are usual operations to replace a set with another one in a production
system. The issue can in some cases be reproduced with the script:

ipset create hash_ip1 hash:net family inet hashsize 1024 maxelem 1048576
ipset add hash_ip1 172.20.0.0/16
ipset add hash_ip1 192.168.0.0/16
iptables -A INPUT -m set --match-set hash_ip1 src -j ACCEPT
while [ 1 ]
do
	# ... Ongoing traffic...
        ipset create hash_ip2 hash:net family inet hashsize 1024 maxelem 1048576
        ipset add hash_ip2 172.20.0.0/16
        ipset swap hash_ip1 hash_ip2
        ipset destroy hash_ip2
        sleep 0.05
done

In the race case the possible order of the operations are

	CPU0			CPU1
	ip_set_test
				ipset swap hash_ip1 hash_ip2
				ipset destroy hash_ip2
	hash_net_kadt

Swap repl...